via Daily Prompt: Stifle

Change is the only constant in life!! If we understand that and embrace the change we will experience a sense of freedom, of anticipation. When there are no changes, life can become boring, stifling!

Life is a gift, given to us by God, for a purpose. Not just for us to enjoy and do our own thing, going our own way. We each have a responsibility to live this life to the fullest, while still bringing pleasure to our Maker, our Creator, our Life Giver. And everything that God makes has life and is constantly changing. When we are following Him, we should always be evolving too, growing in knowledge and wisdom. Growing in love and patience. Always growing in the fruits and the gifts of the spirit. If we find that we aren’t growing, it means we are stagnant. The Spirit is being stifled. And we are missing out on life’s greatest adventure, called Christianity!!


Embrace change, don’t stifle the Spirit of God.


Faux Sun Hat




1 ball light fingering weight (1) yarn (Yarn used – Yeye yarn 100% acrylic)

1 ball Ice Yarn Cha Cha Cha ruffle yarn (06 Bulky)

3.5mm hook

Finished Size = 18” circumference

Abbreviations and Special Stitches

ch = chain

CSDC = Chainless Standing Double Crochet. Find tutorial on Mooglyblog

dc = double crochet

sc = single crochet

sp = space

st = stitch


Each round will be joined with a slip stitch, unless otherwise specified.


ch 3.

Round 1 (right side) : Work (2 dc, ch 1, [3 dc, ch 1] 3 times) in 3rd ch from hook (2 skipped chs count as dc); join with slip st in 3rd ch of beginning ch-3—4 groups of 3 dc.

Round 2: Slip st in next 2 dc, (slip st, ch 2, 2 dc) in next ch-1 space (beginning 3-dc group made), ch 1, 3 dc in same ch-1 space, [(3 dc, ch 1, 3 dc) in next ch-1 space] 3 times; join with slip st in 2nd ch of beginning ch-2—8 groups of 3 dc.

Round 3: Slip st in next 2 dc, (slip st, ch 2, 2 dc) in next ch-1 space; *(3 dc, ch 1, 3 dc) in space before next 3-dc group**; 3 dc in next ch-1 space; repeat from * 3 more times, ending last repeat at **; join with slip st in 2nd ch of beginning ch-2—12 groups of 3 dc.

Round 4:  Slip st in next 2 dc, (slip st, ch 2, 2 dc) in space before next 3-dc group; *(3 dc, ch 1, 3 dc) in next ch-1 space**; [3 dc in space before next 3-dc group] twice; repeat from * 3 more times, ending last repeat at **; 3 dc in space before next 3-dc group; join with slip st in 2nd ch of beginning ch-2—16 groups of 3 dc.

Round 5: Slip st in next 2 dc, (slip st, ch 2, 2 dc) in space before next 3-dc group; *[3 dc in space (or in ch-1 space) before next 3-dc group] twice, (3 dc, ch 1, 3 dc) in space before next 3-dc group**, 3 dc in space before next 3-dc group; repeat from * 3 more times, ending last repeat at **; join with slip st in 2nd ch of beginning ch-2—22 groups of 3 dc.

Round 6: Slip st in next 2 dc, (slip st, ch 2, 2 dc) in space before next 3-dc group; *[3 dc in space (or in ch-1 space) before next 3-dc group] twice, (3 dc, ch 1, 3 dc) in space before next 3-dc group**, 3 dc in space before next 3-dc group; repeat from * 3 more times, ending last repeat at **; join with slip st in 2nd ch of beginning ch-2—25 groups of 3 dc.

NB: Crown now measures approximately 5 inches

Round 7-19: Make 3 dc in the space between each 3-dc group – 25 groups of 3 dc.

Round 20: From here on we will work in a spiral. Mark the first stitch of the row, moving marker up with each row. 1 sc in each stitch around. – 75 sc

Round 21: Move marker up. Holding the ruffle yarn in front of your work and parallel to the working stitch, fold about an inch of the beginning of the ruffle yarn, insert hook through all the folded layers and the stitch to be worked. Complete 1sc stitch. *Insert hook through the next thread loop from front to back and then again through the triangular loop of the ruffle yarn, from front to back and through the next stitch on the hat, completing a sc*. Repeat from * to * around. – 75 sc.

Round 22: Repeat round 21 – 75 sc

Round 23: Repeat round 21 but without the ruffle yarn. – 75 sc

Round 24-27: Repeat round 23. – 75 sc.

Fasten off.


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Forgive – Easier said than done!

In my last post we had the author of the book Marriage is Beautiful with us and he explained to us how important Appreciation is in our marriage. In today’s post we once again have Kalu with us to tell us about another important ingredient in making our marriage beautiful.


‘Forgive and forget,’ ‘let bygone be bygone.’

We have all heard this over and over and even said it over and over at one time or the other. Is this really a true saying or just something we say to fill up the gap while our mind is busy adding and subtracting.

Someone said ‘it is easy to forgive but difficult to forget.’ Another one said ‘you can forgive but don’t ever forget.’ what then should be the right approach?

A husband came to me and complained, ‘I really love my wife but each time we have an argument she seems to lose focus of what we are arguing about and begins to say a lot of hurtful things, she will bring up my mistakes from the past, she will talk nonstop over me even when I try to make a point. We end up hating each other more and nothing is ever resolved.’

Yet, another lady said, ‘I caught my husband in adultery, I have forgiven him but I have to keep reminding him from time to time of the big thing I forgave him of, so that he doesn’t do it again.’

This is a typical case of what is going on in most relationship. We try to hold on to our spouses mistakes, why? Let the truth be told, so that we can manipulate them and subject them to our will. In our mind, that is what we want to achieve but in reality, we end up hurting ourselves the more and creating a bigger gap in an already shaky relationship.

Joseph named his first son Manasseh (forget) ‘because God has made me to forget all my trouble.’ And his second son Ephraim (double prosperity) ‘because God has made me fruitful in the land of my suffering.’ (Genesis 41:51, 52). Joseph did it. Yes, I can say that it is possible to forgive and forget. However we cannot do it on our own, we
need the help of the Holy Spirit. I will share with us 4 things I do to close the door on any wrong or mistake and open new one for prosperity.

 Refuse to live like a victim, stop looking for sympathy and start looking for solution

 Isolate every particular present issue from the past issue

 Allow perfect love to heal the hurt and scar

 Ask God to use you to reach out to others too.

Consciously learn to forget. I am not promising an easy road but with your mind focused on ‘love does not keep record of wrongs,’ you will make it.

Appreciation…a big word!

Hi y’all… So the last time I had written a little about this book called Marriage is Beautiful that I was reading. Well I have since finished the book and today I have a little treat for you. I asked the author of the book to write a little post for us. Below is what he wrote…….

I remember when my wife said the above words to me. She said it coolly, calmly and in a very soft voice. I was getting ready to go to the office then. I just smiled and said thank you.

I thought that was the end of it, but the words just kept on ringing in my ears for the rest of the day. I will be working on something and suddenly, I will just hear, you are the best husband ever all over again. Each time I hear the words, I will just start smiling all over again. I was so happy that day, putting cheerfulness into everything I was doing. Such is the power of appreciation.

Since then, my wife has kept on telling me on numerous occasions and in different ways how much she appreciates and loves me. Sometimes, it comes in a simple ‘thank you’ and at other times, with a surprise dish prepared and waiting for me as I come back home. On each of these occasions, this act has produced tenderness and a feeling in me that cannot be described by mere words. Any wife can make her husband to feel like a king by choosing the right words to build and uplift her husband. You can actually take your husband to great unimaginable heights of success by just speaking life giving words to your husband and showing appreciation as much as your creativity will allow you.

When you take a close look at it, saying thank you to our partner takes no effort, but is very important. There is nobody who is involved in a marriage union who won’t like to be appreciated. When your wife prepares for you a beautiful meal, telling them thank you and mentioning how beautiful the meal was makes them feel appreciated. Also telling your wife you value her contribution in the home and expressing your gratefulness for the effort she makes in taking care of the children will go a long way in boosting her self esteem.

A wife could also thank her husband for being the kind of man he is. She could appreciate him for everything he does for her and how happy she is to be with him. Men with their sensitive ego will always deeply feel this kind of appreciation. Thank you is a simple phrase that can give your marriage a new lease of life.

Begin today to show it!!!….

Marriage is Beautiful – An observation

I was reading the book ‘Marriage is Beautiful’ by Kalu I.Kalu, a friend of my husband. If you recall I mentioned the book in my last post. I haven’t finished reading it yet, but something I read got me pondering and I wanted to share my ponderings with you. Below is an excerpt of it.


……men are wired to approach life like mechanics. They see relationships as a machine that is not working as it should and therefore want to quickly get a new part, stick it in and get the thing up and running again.

………women ………approach life like farmers. A woman tends to see a relationship as a garden that is growing requiring nurture and attention. ……… She is emotionally as well as physically oriented.

– Chapter one, page 5, first paragraph

This point really struck me because it reminded me of my personal experiences in marriage. Both my own and others’ I have witnessed. Men truly do approach life, not just relationships, like mechanics. They are always prepared to “fix” things. They rarely, if ever, want to talk or discuss things. Whereas, we women are always ready to discuss things. When a relationship breaks a man’s reaction is to “replace” the relationship if he can’t “fix” it. But let me say here that this is not true for every man or woman. Some women can “nurture” a relationship to death!

So what is the recipe to a blissful and beautiful marriage. Kalu has a whole list of them in his book.

But what does the creator of the institution say? I’m sure you all are active on social media. I saw a little story doing the rounds recently about Henry Ford. Now I don’t know if this story is true or not but it is interesting. Below is a reproduction of it…..

One day a man’s Ford car broke down on the side of the road. Now this man knew a lot about cars so he tried fixing his own car. He tried different ways and each time he went to crank the engine, it wouldn’t start at all. He was a little stubborn, so rather than call for help, he continued to work alone. He tried everything and still nothing. The car wouldn’t start. A few minutes later another car pulled up beside him. Out stepped an old man and watched him for a few minutes. The old man looked at him and said, “Son, do you see this part? Just twist this one and you’re good to go.” The man thought in his mind; ‘There’s no way this old guy could know more about this car than me.’ Anyway, he gave it a try. He adjusted the part, got in the car and sure enough, the engine cranked to life! He was surprised and asked the old man; “How did you know what to do?” Then the old man smiled and said; “My name is Henry Ford. I’m the one who invented your car. And I know everything about it.”

When your life breaks down, don’t ever think that you know how to fix everything.. …that you don’t need any help. Always remember, only God knows how to fix our lives because we are His creation and HE LOVES US SO MUCH!

This story is a reminder that once we follow the Bible (user manual) that God (Creator) has given us we will always have a smooth running life.

→So, what does the Bible say about marriage? Let’s see, shall we?

Gen-2:24  Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh. (KJV)

Pro-18:22  Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the LORD. (KJV)

Pro-19:14  House and riches are the inheritance of fathers: and a prudent wife is from the LORD. (KJV)


→And what are our responsibilities to each other?

Eph-5:23  For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. (KJV)

1Co-7:3  Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband. (KJV)

1Co-7:4  The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife. (KJV)


→And a special note:

Eph-5:33  Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband. (KJV)

Eph-5:28  So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. (KJV)

Pro-12:4  A virtuous woman is a crown to her husband: but she that maketh ashamed is as rottenness in his bones. (KJV)

So in conclusion God created us in pairs and when He brings us together we are meant to forget our individual families and cleave/cling to each other. A man should love his wife as he loves himself and a woman should be submissive and respectful to her husband. A prudent wife is a blessing from God and brings God’s favor on her husband. A virtuous woman is a crown on her husband’s head. And a crown ought to be taken care of and treated with care, right?

If we follow these instructions we will really have a beautiful marriage and be a testimony amongst our fellow couples. We will shine bright as the lamp kept on a candlestick. We shall be a city on the hill. And when other couples see you they will desire to have what you do and thus you will have won more souls for the Lord, fulfilling His primary injunction to all believers.

Mat-5:16  Let your light so shine before men, that they may see your good works, and glorify your Father which is in heaven. (KJV)

Man……this post ran longer than I’d planned!! Hope you’ll are still awake. I would love to hear what your take is on my ponderings.

Marriage is beautiful indeed

I don’t know how many of you have read or heard about a book called “Marriage is beautiful” by Kalu Igwe Kalu. Turns out the author is a good friend of my husband. When Kalu first published this book last year he had given my husband a copy of it along with his previous book “Pursue your Passion”. I read both the books at that time, enjoyed it and then forgot about them! (*I know….I’m awful, right?) Anyways, to make a long story short, the book on marriage went on to become a huge success and the author traveled to the US multiple times organizing marriage seminars. Kalu came back to Nigeria and met up with hubs again. He had organized a Marriage is Beautiful Gala for couples in Nigeria and we were invited! The event was called The Game Changer In your marriage. It was a really well organized event with experienced guest speakers who shared with us their personal experiences and lessons learned in the school of marriage.




For me it was an opportunity to have some alone time with my husband. After 15 years of marriage and three kids, marriage had become kind of mundane. The romance was bogged down by responsibilities and financial constraints. We had forgotten how to laugh. Our 15th wedding anniversary will be on the 17th of this month of November. This Gala was like an early celebration of our anniversary. It really refreshed us as a couple and reminded me of the man I married. Once again I saw that shy but fun-loving, charismatic man I fell in love with all those years ago! And as a bonus we won a 3 nights, all expenses paid stay, at The Luxury City Hotel in Nigeria! Wonderful anniversary gift, I say! Right?!

What I especially like about the book and the Gala was that Biblical Principles of Love and Marriage were the cornerstones of it. The author has rightly understood that Marital Bliss can only be based on the foundation of Christ-like love. When you love Christ you see everything and everyone around with the eyes of Christ and a heart full of love. When this love filled eyes behold your spouse, all you see is what Christ sees in them. And true love is respectful and honorable. It is far easier for a woman to submit to a spouse she loves.

I was truly blessed both by the book and the gala. I am currently in the process of re-reading the book. And if I have anymore epiphanies I will be sure to share them with you. Till then…..may the love of God reign in your lives and marriages.

You can find Kalu Igwe on Facebook where you will find more stories about how this book as changed marriages.

Cha Cha Cha with Ice Yarns

I don’t think I have mentioned this before but I do have an online yarn store called Patchwork Creations ( We have some great deals on Ice yarns available. The yarns I bought are also Ice. I got one pack of Cha Cha Cha yarn ( cha-cha-cha-mixed-lot#) and one pack of Twin Ringlets ( twin-ringlets-light-olive- green-cream#inc579)


Never having worked with ruffle yarn or scarf yarn before I set out to do some research. After going through many different websites and youtube videos, all I saw were scarves, scarves and more scarves! So I set to work.And here is the fruit of my labour


And while I agree that the models are beautiful * cheeky grin ;D * the scarf itself left me feeling depressed! 😦

So obviously I went a-frogging! And came up with a faux sunhat for my DD instead.


She loves it! What do you think?

And for those of you that are interested, I’m in the process of writing out the pattern. Will post it soon!

Till then……happy craftin’!